Often when a person hears of someone near and dear to them being told they have cancer, their first reactions are - what can I do, how do I treat them, what do I say to them? Possibly the worst thing you can do is to do nothing, ignore the situation and avoid any discussion for fear of saying and doing the wrong thing.

This book is written to help you understand the facts about cancer, its probable effects on the patient and their likely reactions to the diagnosis. This will enable you to better fill the needs of the patient, whether your relationship is casual or you are the primary supporter or somewhere in between.

Part I is for the primary caregiver detailing the actions to take to truly help the cancer patient. Part II is a brief description of medical treatments available to a cancer patient and definitions, so you can educate yourself and be able to discuss them intelligently. Part III is designed to allow the casual supporter to be comfortable and constructive. 

Chapter 9 includes a check list of specific helpful hints for the primary supporter in taking care of oneself.

If you are the primary supporter, such as a spouse, parent, child or closest friend, you will want to thoroughly read Part I and possibly Part II. If you are a casual acquaintance, you will want to concentrate on Part III.

The American Cancer Society predicts that one out of every three Americans will be stricken with cancer. Nearly every family will be affected. The chances are sooner or later you will appreciate suggestions on how to approach and communicate with the patient and be truly helpful as well as how to cope yourself.

The fundamental thread to remember is that the patient is a living being. The diagnosis of disease may have changed their focus, but it has not changed their likes and dislikes. Like every human being, they have interests they want to continue sharing. Be there for them and with them.

Sorrow is for the dead. Concern and caring is for the living. The worst thing you can do is to avoid the patient. Be with them. Your actions do not have to be negative, submissive or passive. They should be positive, active and helpful.

Remember, cancer is a word, not a sentence.